My much loved cat died in July from HCM at just four years old. Feeling Guilty About Rehoming a Cat. Some of them, like Derek Tangye (A Cat in the Window, Lama, A Cat Affair), are 1-cat ⦠Now I am consumed with guilt and regret and I am worried I wonât love him as much. -Accept your Role in Responsibility- If you accept your role in being responsible for having to give up the pet, you can see it as a learning process, rather than a guilty one. THIS female cat wanted to be QUEEN from day one! Some bereaved pet lovers feel guilty, sad, or confused about adopting a cat or buying a kitten from a pet store. Others are worried about opening their hearts to another experience of great love and loss. Recently, I've really been craving the companionship of another cat. She wanted to rule the food and water dishes ⦠Deciding if you should you adopt a new cat or kitten after the death of your beloved animal isn't easy. Losing them is much like losing a second self, and we donât get over the loss. If that feels impossible or you want to talk to someone impartial, you might want to speak to a pet bereavement counsellor who is ⦠You may experience feelings of guilt and shame. A New Cat. Guilt is normal after rehoming a cat. There is no statute of limitations on grief over a cat, any more than there is on grief over a human. Recently decided to get a new kitten which we will collect in 3 weeks when he is 10 weeks old. The problem with guilt is that it often comes hand-in-hand with shame, which is a feeling that can hold us back from talking to others. Kids are excited but I just feel sad. I brought her home, isolated her, did slow introductions, etc. Incomplete Endings: Coping With a Runaway or Lost Pet Moving through the grief and guilt while not knowing how ⦠About two months ago, I lost my 4 year old cat to PKD, I only had her for about a year before she was diagnosed. Do try to talk to your friends and family about your loss. I had my cat Molly for almost 13 years I had to put her down and feel so guilty that I did not try to get her better. Hello, I wasn't sure which thread to post this in. The majority of the time a pet is put to sleep for very good reasons. Feeling defensive over giving up a pet for the right reasons is not going to help you to cope with guilt, instead it will leave you angry and defensive. Old cat was one in a million. Your veterinarian can help you determine when the time may be right to put your pet to sleep if you feel it is suffering since sometimes putting it to sleep is the only way to relieve the pain. Rehoming a cat affects humans too. I am so naive about cats and some of the conditions they can get, so when she started acting strange, I had a vet come in and she told me she had stage 3 Kidney failure. Expect to feel similar emotions to bereavement. A lot of people donât want to suffer the pangs of loss again. 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